There is much talk today about the danger of “toxic masculinity.” That is, many people oppose the notion that men have a unique place and role in modern society. In the push for equality among the sexes, the thought of Christian manhood is often tossed to the side. Yet the bible teaches us that fathers play a special role in the world and in the home. The truth is, though, that being a good father is not easy. Here are four principles that Christian fathers should live by:
They Love and Respect Their Wives. The greatest gift a man can give to his children is to love their mother. Many children grow up to have marriages that are very similar to what they’ve seen in their home while growing up. When a man marries his wife, he makes a promise to love, honor and cherish her and show his commitment as an illustration of the relationship of Christ and his church, Ephesians 5:22-33.
They make time for their family. A Christian father should not only provide of the physical needs of his family, he needs to provide for their emotional and spiritual needs as well. A good Christian father makes time for his family and anchors his family in Christ. It’s important for fathers to be present in their children’s life so that they can teach by words and example.
They Lovingly Discipline and Encourage. The Bible tells us “Do not exasperate your children, so that they don’t become downhearted,” Colossians 3:21. The Christian father disciplines in a way that leads his children to better conduct and faith in Christ. He always looks out for the welfare of his children in advice, education, and chastisement when needed. He also understands the importance of encouragement. Positive encouragement makes negative correction less needed.
They Communicate Well. A Christian father should always strive to communicate well—not only in giving Biblical principles but also in listening. When a father listens with genuine love and respect, he is better able to help guide his children in the way of the Lord. The Bible says, “Every man should be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to become angry” James 1:19.